I guess I'll finally sit down and write at least a little about our situation. You asked me to listen to this song and I do have to agree that it's completely accurate considering our life together. As I type this I'm sad but also relieved. I think we both want and deserve so much better out of life. You were right all those times you said we were too young, we were. It took so long for me to admit that. It was so hard to say it's true, but now that I've said so there's no taking it back and denying it. We've been together since we were 14 years old. "What a shame" some would say about us ending this. I know, I used to say the same. It would be a shame to let go of all these years together, it would be a waste of 7 years. But that's wrong. It was certainly not a waste. We've learned so much about how not to live and how not to treat people. We've learned to let go of something wrong and unhealthy. We were so wrong about so many things.
I was wrong for making you hold on for so long. You don't see that now, maybe. But you're sad and you're hurting, as am I. In time we'll look back and be able to smile at the good times and acknowledge that this is for the best. It's not healthy to keep living the kind of life that we were. Not for us or for our son. If we continued to be together, to yell at each other, to disrespect each other as we have, what would we be teaching him? That it's normal for Mommies and Daddies to fight all the time? That you don't have to love someone to stay with them? Or worse, that you don't have to respect the one you love and choose to spend your life with. I don't want any of that for him. For a long time I wanted to keep us together so that he'd have a "normal" and "whole" family, a father and a mother there for him in a singular home. But I see the error of that now. I think it's much better for him to have a healthy happy home with his mother and a separate one with his father instead. I'd rather him be around two healthy and happy people separately than around to miserable and severely unhealthy people together. And I know you want the same for him, I know you love him that much.
This isn't easy for either of us, it's scary, it hurts, and it's very difficult to do. But I think that at this point it is necessary. And I know that getting over this and getting through it will be very hard, but I also know that bigger and better things await us in life. God has so much more planned for us. We will always hold a special place in each others' hearts, we were first loves, first everything really. We were together for such a long time, and we probably know each other better than anyone else may ever know us. We will always love each other on a certain level, but it's time we say goodbye and stop trying to fix something that is broken beyond repair. I think God has given us many signs and signals along the way, that we were fighting too much and too hard for something that He never meant to be. But in our selfishness and anger we ignored Him. I'm glad now to be listening to Him, and I know that a part of you is too. I know that we both agree this is for the best, and I can't tell you how much of a relief it is that we aren't doing this bitterly. That we will be able to do this on a mature adult level to make a better life for each other and for our child. After all, he is what's most important.
I'm sad to say goodbye, but I'm glad that I will always be able to call you my friend and the father of my son. You are a wonderful person, there are so many good qualities in you. We've just grow into two completely different people and we're just not who we used to be. We're not two kids anymore, we're adults and so we can acknowledge our mistakes and right them. I think we're both still in love with the person we fell in love with 7 years ago, and neither of us is that person anymore. We've experienced so much more of life and it's made us into these two people. Wonderful people, but people who are too different to continue their lives together.
It hurts to see you hurting, and I'm sad to let this go, but I know that this is what we should have done all along. I will always care for you, I will always pray for you, you will always be with me in my heart and in my son.
I was wrong for making you hold on for so long. You don't see that now, maybe. But you're sad and you're hurting, as am I. In time we'll look back and be able to smile at the good times and acknowledge that this is for the best. It's not healthy to keep living the kind of life that we were. Not for us or for our son. If we continued to be together, to yell at each other, to disrespect each other as we have, what would we be teaching him? That it's normal for Mommies and Daddies to fight all the time? That you don't have to love someone to stay with them? Or worse, that you don't have to respect the one you love and choose to spend your life with. I don't want any of that for him. For a long time I wanted to keep us together so that he'd have a "normal" and "whole" family, a father and a mother there for him in a singular home. But I see the error of that now. I think it's much better for him to have a healthy happy home with his mother and a separate one with his father instead. I'd rather him be around two healthy and happy people separately than around to miserable and severely unhealthy people together. And I know you want the same for him, I know you love him that much.
This isn't easy for either of us, it's scary, it hurts, and it's very difficult to do. But I think that at this point it is necessary. And I know that getting over this and getting through it will be very hard, but I also know that bigger and better things await us in life. God has so much more planned for us. We will always hold a special place in each others' hearts, we were first loves, first everything really. We were together for such a long time, and we probably know each other better than anyone else may ever know us. We will always love each other on a certain level, but it's time we say goodbye and stop trying to fix something that is broken beyond repair. I think God has given us many signs and signals along the way, that we were fighting too much and too hard for something that He never meant to be. But in our selfishness and anger we ignored Him. I'm glad now to be listening to Him, and I know that a part of you is too. I know that we both agree this is for the best, and I can't tell you how much of a relief it is that we aren't doing this bitterly. That we will be able to do this on a mature adult level to make a better life for each other and for our child. After all, he is what's most important.
I'm sad to say goodbye, but I'm glad that I will always be able to call you my friend and the father of my son. You are a wonderful person, there are so many good qualities in you. We've just grow into two completely different people and we're just not who we used to be. We're not two kids anymore, we're adults and so we can acknowledge our mistakes and right them. I think we're both still in love with the person we fell in love with 7 years ago, and neither of us is that person anymore. We've experienced so much more of life and it's made us into these two people. Wonderful people, but people who are too different to continue their lives together.
It hurts to see you hurting, and I'm sad to let this go, but I know that this is what we should have done all along. I will always care for you, I will always pray for you, you will always be with me in my heart and in my son.
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